Male cardinal at feeder
Last week, I watched a pair of cardinals enjoying our bird feeder. Red feathers flashing in the sun, they swooped and settled for breakfast. At first, they were individuals, two heads twisting, wary eyes checking for intruders as they nibbled at the seed. Then came the shift. The less colourful female flew to the top of the feeder hook, standing watch while her mate gulped the seed much more peacefully. After a few moments, he joined her on the hook. It looked like he gave her a kiss before she flew down for her second helping. Totally charmed by their relationship, their teamwork, I kept very still hoping not to disturb them. The cardinals worked together for protection from predators. Teamwork and loving relationships are important for God’s creatures, particularly us humans.
Over my lifetime, I have experienced the support, the satisfaction, the joy that comes from many levels of relationship. In our work and play, co-operation, sharing, trust, and caring bring abundant life. Healthy and loving relationships are work. They require sharing and trust. I have learned, like the cardinals, relationships are so much more than useful. They are the beginning and the end, the stuff of life.
One week ago, I received the welcome news from the surgeon’s office that I will receive a new knee on May fifth. Like that of the cardinals’ first moments at the feeder, my surgery preparation could be a lonely journey. I don’t have to share my feelings of joy and anxiety. On the other hand, I also know that family and friends are willing to help in any way they can. In fact, helping can bring them the satisfaction and joy of giving.
It’s my choice. My heart needs help and support. When a new friend at the church asked if I could be included on the prayer list, I smiled and said yes with thanks. Feeling the care from my church family gives me strength. These next few months will be challenging. I trust that God is with me, caring for me through people: the medical team, family, friends and my wider community. I am truly blessed.
Let’s learn a lesson from the cardinals. Our Bible offers this advice,
“By yourself you’re unprotected. With a friend you can face the worst. Can you round up a third? A three stranded rope isn’t easily snapped. (Ecclesiastes 4:12 The Message) Going it alone is totally possible. Travelling together with others brings strength, endurance and peace. Choose the blessing of shared abundant life through relationships.
